Age Play Infantilism, Diapers - In the normal sense of the term, it is pretending to be younger than you are. Roleplaying adult/child scenarios sexually is controversial as it can arouse concern in many people's minds, due to the sensitive nature of its subject matter. However as with other sexual fantasy it is not, by itself, necessarily a problem, and can be for some, a healthy or healing outlet, and for others like any fantasy an exploration of different roles and feelings. Age play can include a desire to be treated as a baby or toddler including putting the submissive partner in diapers as though he or she were an infant.
Afterglow - The good feeling experienced after sex.
Autofellatio - For when a man performs oral sex on himself, putting his penis in his own mouth.
Anal Sex - is a form of human sexual behavior. While there are many sexual acts involving the anus, anal cavity, sphincter valve and/or rectum, the term anal sex is often restricted to anal intercourse: the insertion of the erect penis into the rectum.
Asphyxiaphilia - Autoerotic asphyxiation, asphyxiophilia, or breath control play, is the practice of intentionally reducing the amount of oxygen to the brain during sexual stimulation in order to heighten the received pleasure from orgasm. A sexual partner may or may not be involved in the act; however, if a sex partner is excluded the practice can be referred to as autoerotic asphyxiation, or AEA.
Biting - Biting or light scratching are common acts of foreplay, but some people prefer spanking or other forms of light physical punishment. Some disorders such as Lesch-Nyhan syndrome may cause people to bite themselves.
Blueballs - When a man has an erection for a long period without ejaculating can cause a swollen, painful feeling in the testicles.
Bukkake - In porn movies, where many men ejaculate on the face of an actress.
Blindfolds - Many people enjoy slipping a blindfold over their partners eyes to spice up their sex and foreplay.
Bondage - In the context of BDSM, bondage involves people being tied up or otherwise restrained for pleasure. Bondage is usually, but not always, a sexual practice. The paraphilia of being sexually aroused by bondage is sometimes known as vincilagnia.
Branding - refers to using small, shaped, highly heated pieces of metal to burn small scars into a partner's skin.
Breast/Nipple Torture - Nipple torture is one of many many ways to explore power and refers to several erotic BDSM activities focusing solely on inflicting pain on the breast, nipples, and areola for sexual gratification. Breast-oriented BDSM activities range from the use of clothespins on the nipples, light flagellation, or simple breast bondage to activities that can include risk, such as severe caning, amateur piercing, or being suspended by the breasts.
Candle Wax - Hot wax applied properly and at the right time in sexual play can be immensely erotic. Candle or wax play is a form of sensual play involving warm or hot wax usually dripped from candles or ladled onto a person's naked skin. Wax play may be combined with other BDSM or sexual activity.
Chains - used in BDSM can include police handcuffs, thumbcuffs, padlocks with chains, and belly chains.
Chastity Devices - A chastity belt is a locking item designed to prevent sexual intercourse and possibly masturbation. Devices have been created for males and females. Today, chastity belts are sometimes used in BDSM play and in consensual relationships. They are a means for the wearer to surrender control over their sexual behavior either for sexual play, or as a long-term method of preventing infidelity or masturbation.
Chinese Balls/Ben Wa Balls/Anal Beads - are a sex toy consisting of several small balls attached together in series which are inserted through the anus into the rectum and then removed with varying speeds depending on the effect desired (most typically at orgasm to enhance climax). Those who use anal beads enjoy the pleasurable feeling they receive as the ball passes through the narrow sphincter of the anus.
Cling Film - wraping the whole body or a part of it in bindings such as cloth or plastic (saran wrap or cling film "mummification").
Cock and Ball Torture - is a sexual activity involving torture of the male genitals. This may involve directly painful activities, such as wax play, genital spanking, ball busting, genital flogging, genital bondage, urethral play, electrical play, or tickle torture. It may equally consist of the use of cock harnesses, testicle cuffs, parachutes, prolonged stimulation (teasing), metal cages, cock rings, English cages, not necessarily leading to orgasm. Erotic electrostimulation may be used in CBT.
Collar and Lead/Leash - is a length of rope, leather, chain or other flexible material for restraint or control. Most leashes attach to collars or body harnesses, while others loop directly around the person's neck, wrist, ankle or sometimes around the male genitals. Commonly made of leather but sometimes of nylon webbing, small-linked chain or rope. Many people use a strong dog leash, especially a black leather one.
Confinement/Caging - In BDSM, a cage is an enclosure, usually made of metal bars, sometimes also of wood, used to confine a submissive. In dungeons, cages are standard equipment; however, cages are also placed in residential basements or spare rooms. Cages are used as a means to restrict the freedom of the enclosed person in an obvious way. They have a connotation both of animal husbandry and of prisons.
Coprophilia (Shit Play)/Scat - is a paraphilia consisting of the condition of feeling sexual excitement focused on faeces, often in conjunction with BDSM or infantilism.
Cross Dressing - is the act of wearing clothing commonly associated with another gender within a particular society. Drag is a form of performance art based on cross-dressing. A drag queen is a male who performs as an exaggeratedly feminine character, in an elaborate costume usually consisting of a gaudy dress and high-heeled shoes, heavy makeup, and a large wig. A drag queen may imitate famous female film or pop-music stars.
Dacryphilia - Sexual and erotic arousal from seeing tears in the eyes of a partner or from seeing a partner cry. Dacryphilia is primarily associated with males.
Defilement - Seeing a Partner Dirty or Wet. The act of defiling, or state of being defiled, whether physically or morally; pollution; foulness; dirtiness; uncleanness.
Depilation or Shaving - affects the part of the hair above the surface of the skin. The most common form of depilation is shaving.
Dildos - Usually a non-vibrating device, resembling a human penis in shape, size, and appearance. Dildos come in various sizes and can be used by both men and women anally or vaginally.
Discipline - Discipline is the use of rules and punishment to control overt behavior in BDSM. Punishment can be physical pain such as caning, humiliation caused psychologically such as a public flagellation or loss of freedom such as chaining to a bed, for some misbehavior.
Dental Dam - A safe sex barrier, usually made of latex, used when performing oral sex on women.
Domination - is the condition of having control or power over people or things. In BDSM domination refers to those who take the superior position, called dominants, doms (male) or dommes (female), while those who take the subordinate position are called submissives or subs (male or female).
Exhibitionism - Sex in Public - Also known as flashing, apodysophilia and Lady Godiva syndrome, is the psychological need and pattern of behavior to exhibit naked parts of the body to another person with a tendency toward an extravagant, usually at least partially sexually inspired behavior to captivate the attention of another in an open display of bare private parts.
Feathers - Unusual textures such as feathers, silk, or leather can be used to arouse during sex and foreplay.
Fire Play - Fire play is a type of BDSM play that involves lighting 50% to 70% rubbing alcohol or other flammable substances on or very close to the skin. Fire play is often considered a form of edge play and can be very exciting but can also be very dangerous.
Fisting - Fisting or fist fucking is a sexual activity that involves inserting the hand and forearm into the vagina or anus. Typically, fisting does not involve forcing the clenched fist into the vagina or anus. Instead, all five fingers are kept straight and held as close together as possible then slowly inserted into a well-lubricated vagina or anus. Once insertion is complete, the fingers either clench into a fist or remain straight.
Frotteurism - A fetish that involves rubbing up against an unsuspecting or unwilling person.
Gangbangs - A gang bang (or gangbang) is a situation in which one individual, either a woman or a man, has sexual intercourse with multiple partners in turn. When a man has sex with several women, it is usually known as a reverse gangbang.
Glory hole - A hole cut through a wall allowing anonymous sex between people on either side of the wall.
Hair Pulling - Trichotillomania (TTM), or "trich" as it is commonly known, is an impulse control disorder characterized by the repeated urge to pull out scalp hair, eyelashes, facial hair, nose hair, pubic hair, eyebrows or other body hair. Trichotillomania is classified in the DSM-IV as an impulse control disorder that is not elsewhere classified under another axis or disorder.
Handcuffs/Shackles - Physical restraint refers to the practice of rendering people helpless or keeping them in captivity by means such as handcuffs, shackles, straitjackets, ropes, straps, or other forms of physical restraint used as part of games of BDSM and sexual bondage.
Humiliation - Erotic humiliation is the consensual use of psychological humiliation in a sexual context, whereby one person gains arousal or erotic excitement from the mixed and powerful emotions of being humiliated and demeaned, or of humiliating another. The humiliation need not be sexual in itself, as with many other sexual activities it is the feelings derived from it which are sought, regardless of the nature of the actual activity. It can be verbal or physical, and can be relatively private or public.
Klismaphilia (Douching/Enema) - Klismaphilia (sometimes spelled Klysmaphilia) is the paraphilia of deriving sexual pleasure from enemas. Some providers in the sex industry offer enemas to cater to klismaphiliac desires. It is sometimes regarded as a form of anal masturbation. There are many movies, magazines and websites devoted specifically to this fetish.
Lace - Lingerie - Lingerie is a term for women's fashion undergarments. It derives from the French word 'lin' for linen.[1] While the term in the French language applies to all undergarments for either sex, in English it is applied only to those women's undergarments designed to be visually appealing or erotic, typically incorporating materials such as Lycra, nylon (nylon tricot), polyester, satin, lace and/or silk.
Lactation - Erotic lactation means breastfeeding of an adult partner or re-lactation for primarily erotic reasons. Depending on the context, other terms are used such as adult suckling, adult nursing, adult breastfeeding, Adult Nursing Relationship (ANR), or nursing couple(s).
Latex - Latex fetishism is the fetishistic attraction to people wearing latex clothing, or in certain cases, to the garments themselves. Sometimes this is called rubber fetishism also, as latex is closely-related to rubber (the latter usually being thicker and less shiny, more matte). Latex or rubber fetishists sometimes refer to themselves as "Rubberists". Gay Rubberists tend to call themselves "Rubbermen".
Leather - The leather culture typically includes both a style of dress and an affiliation with BDSM (Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/Submission, Sado/Masochism, also called "SM") practice. Both the style of dress and the kinds of BDSM activities characteristic of a community may differ between gay, lesbian, and straight communities, and between "Old Guard" and newer generations of players. While most people who engage in the leather culture style of dress are also affiliated with BDSM practice, not all BDSM practitioners wear leather culture apparel. By the same token, not all people who are affiliated with the subculture engage in BDSM practice.
Masochism - The receptive counterpart of sadism is masochism, the sexual pleasure or gratification of having pain or suffering inflicted upon the self. Often interrelated, the practices are collectively known as S&M or sadomasochism. These terms usually refer to consensual practices within the BDSM community.
Massage - Erotic massage is the use of massage techniques for erotic. Widely practiced by couples as part of lovemaking. For example, instead of draping the subject's body with towels, an erotic massage is usually conducted with the subject naked and undraped. Areas of the body such as the areas around the groin and intimate parts of the body, which are normally not touched in therapeutic massage, will be touched in ways that increase sexual arousal.
Master - Slave - Master/slave or M/s relationships are a special case of dominance/submission, in which the dominant has ultimate authority over the submissive. Many practitioners of M/s believe that ownership of slaves is based on an inescapable emotional state, such as total power exchange (TPE). It should be noted that the owner/slave relationship is entered into on a strictly consensual basis, without the legal force of historical or modern non-consensual slavery.
Menage a trois - When three people have sex together ( threesome) at once.
Masturbation - Masturbation refers to sexual stimulation, especially of one's own genitals and often to the point of orgasm, which is performed manually, by other types of bodily contact (except for sexual intercourse), by use of objects or tools, or by some combination of these methods.
Mutual Masturbation - Mutual masturbation is a sexual act where two or more people stimulate themselves or one another sexually, usually with the hands. This may be done in situations where the participants do not feel physically able (or that it is socially appropriate) to have full sexual intercourse.
Oral Sex - Oral sex consists of all sexual activities that involve the use of the mouth, which may include use of the tongue, teeth, and throat, to stimulate genitalia. Cunnilingus refers to oral sex performed on a woman and fellatio refers to oral sex performed on a man. Analingus refers to oral stimulation of a person's anus.
Paraphilia - Paraphilia is a recurring sexual fantasy, impulse or behavior related to non-human objects e.g things, fabrics, designs, legs fetish, feet fetish, nurse fetish, doctor fetish, shoe fetish.
Podophilia (Foot Fetish) - Foot fetishism or podophilia is a pronounced sexual interest in feet. It is the most common form of sexual fetish.
Pearl necklace - Ejaculating on someone's neck and upper chest, especially after receiving fellatio.
Retifism (Shoes or Boots) - Shoe fetishism, also known as retifism involves being fixated on shoes or other footwear to the extent it may interfere with sexual expression.
Rimming - Anal-oral contact, also referred to as anal-oral sex, rimming, or anilingus is a form of oral sex involving contact between the anus or perineum of one person and the mouth of another.
Role Playing - In roleplaying, participants adopt and act out the role of characters, or parts, that may have personalities, motivations, and backgrounds different from their own.
Rubber - Fetishistic interest in the mechanics of bondage, with particular interest in the equipment and restraints used. Some of these people are interested in the look, feel, and aroma of leather and rubber restraints.
Sadism - In BDSM, the term sadism refers to sexual gratification in the infliction of pain or suffering upon another person. The receptive counterpart of sadism is masochism, the sexual pleasure or gratification of having pain or suffering inflicted upon the self. Sadists enjoy inflicting pain; this may or may not be sexual in nature. Masochists enjoy receiving pain, which again may or may not be sexual. The simple desire for pain is technically known as algolagnia.
Sensory Deprivation - Sensory deprivation is the deliberate reduction or removal of stimuli from one or more of the senses. Simple devices such as blindfolds or hoods and earmuffs can cut off sight and hearing respectively, while more complex devices can also cut off the sense of smell, touch, taste, thermoception, and gravity.
Spanking - Paddling - Erotic spanking is the practice of spanking another for the sexual gratification of either or both parties. Erotic spanking can be regarded as a form of BDSM activity. Many spankings are carried out with the use of bare hands, or with spanking implements such as paddles, straps, hairbrushes, and belts.
Transvestism - Transvestism is literally the practice of cross-dressing, wearing the clothing of the opposite sex, and transvestite literally refers to a person who cross-dresses.
Urolagnia (Water Sports - Urine) - Urolagnia (also known as urophilia or undinism) is a sexual fetish in which participants derive sexual pleasure from urine and urination. People with urolagnia often like to urinate in public, or urinate on, or be urinated on by other people, and may drink the urine. The consumption of urine is urophagia. Some like to watch others doing these things. These activities are often described by the euphemisms "golden showers" or "watersports"
Vibrators - Vibrators are devices intended to vibrate against the body and stimulate the nerves for a relaxing and pleasurable feeling. Some vibrators are designed to be inserted in a body cavity for erotic stimulation.
Voyeurism - Voyeurism is a practice in which an individual derives sexual pleasure from observing other people. Such people may be engaged in sexual acts, or be nude or in underwear, or dressed in whatever other way the "voyeur" finds appealing. Voyeurism may be tolerated or even appreciated if the people viewed are exhibitionists. This relationship is typically role-play where the exhibitionist pretends to not know of the voyeur's presence.
Wet dream - When a man has an erotic dream and ejaculates in his sleep.
Whips - Flagellation is the act of whipping the human body. Specialised implements for it include rods, switches and the cat-o-nine-tails. Typically, whipping is performed on unwilling subjects as a punishment; however, flagellation can also be submitted to willingly, or performed on oneself, in religious or sadomasochistic contexts.
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